BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Hello there! Its another beautiful Monday morning and you know what that means!

You own your mind.You control your thoughts. Also, what you think of yourself is more important than what anybody else thinks, why? Because what you think of yourself influences what you do and what you do is what makes you great. If you don't believe in yourself, how will you then achieve great things?

Train your mind to believe in yourself. If you really believe in yourself, then all the dirty feets that cross your mind will not leave their foot prints behind.
Have a blessed day!

TALES OF A BROKEN HEART 2

A cousin of mine who lives abroad called to me right be shock of my life. Ever since I met him, I had told her everything about our relationship. Her call came through shortly after I had sent her the pre-wedding pictures. After exchanging pleasantries, her voice lost its cheerfulness. That could only mean one thing-something was wrong.
"Did you and your fiance get tested in the hospital?"
"I suggested it but he kicked against it because we already know our genotype and we are compatible," I replied.
"Farha, there are other tests required apart from that," Hafsah said softly.
"Oh you mean like that of HIV?" I asked jokingly.
"Yes! Its not funny Farha, call him up right now and don't just 'suggest' it, ask him to go with yiu to the hospital immediately!" Hafsah ordered. There was something in her tone that scared me. I couldn't understand why she was persistent. I concluded that it was because she is a medical doctor.
I immediately called Faruq and did as my cousin suggested but Alas! I saw a side of him that I had never seen before. He exploded like a bomb! Before I could defend my request he started calling names, raining curses, making threats. Faruq even went to the extent of breaking off our engagement just two days to the wedding! I fell into shock. I could not believe my ears. My head started to spin, I could not process anything. I was about to collapse when my mother grabbed me.
" Farha! What is wrong with you?"
"He called off the wedding!" I whispered before I blacked out. I woke up in a strange place with a drip connected to my vein.
"Farha, you're awake!" My mother exclaimed.
I was a little confused. Moments later however, I remembered everything as though it had just happened.
" I only asked for a test," I said with tears dripping from my eyes.
"You were right to ask for the test my dear! He got upset because he was hiding something from you," Mummy said calmly.
"What?"
"Hafsah said he was once her patient. He was diagnosed with HIV. She remembers his face because he broke down in her office and she had to counsel him for long before he was convinced that he could still live a normal life," Mummy narrated.
I was surprised at first, then scared and then I felt grateful. I had been rescued from the chains of a heartless liar.
"It turned out that he had lived a wild life back in school before he repented but it was too late. I hope you all have learnt something from my story. Thank you very much," Farha said and stood up to leave.
We were all so touched by her story that we walked back to the hostel in silence.

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A DEMEANING MISCONCEPTION

Hello there! Todays topic is entirely different from that of last week. I will be discussing something much more sensitive.
But first, Tea!

If you are from Arewa (Northern Nigeria) then chances that you might have been a victim are high. See we northerners have a common language that we all speak.The average northerner speaks fluent hausa language.
Whenever two northerners meet, they automatically start speaking hausa. Its just something we have in common. Its our cultural heritage. Personally, I think it makes us stand out.
However I recently noticed that some other people have a misconception that we have poor command of English that is why we desist from speaking it. If it was just an assumption, I probably wouldn't mind, I could even take the trouble of straightening it out for them. But it has gotten to the extent where you hear scornful voices yell "Speak English!" That is them rudely jumping into someone else's conversation- with no sense of courtesy or decorum- and barking orders that no one assigned them to do.
They claim to be sympathizing with our parents who have been paying our school fees since nursery school and we still can't speak English. This is where they are wrong! Being able to speak English and choosing not to speak it is just a preference. It doesn't mean that our command of English language is poor. I am a lover of culture but it has in no way affected my western education. Infact it has made a much better educated lady.
People should learn to mind their business, what is your business with somebody's fathers money? Ha'an!
Now not only are we percieved as poor in English, there is this general assumption that we are so dumb! This one is even more annoying. We are viewied as being good only at getting dressed and putting on makeup. How demeaning! I mean if we are so dumb how did we make progress academically to get to our varius stations in life?
Today my post is dedicated to defending my culture! We in the north are groomed traditionally and brought up to be respectful and kind hearted. There are always a few bad apples ofcourse- let's save that gist for another day- but generally we are modest people. We put this modesty in our daily endeavours which is why you will rarely see a northern girl pick a fight when she is underestimated. We are just that modest and patient because time will proove your demeaning beliefs wrong!

I would love to know your thoughts so please do comment below! Have a blessed day and stay beautiful!

A little motivation

Good Morning beautiful people! It is the beginning of another week and I am here to give you a little motivation to keep you going.

Do you know that you have so much power within you? Well you do! You are much more than what you see when you look at the mirror. You have so much potential and it’s time to make use of it. It is up to you to create your own success. You get to plant it, nurture it and mold it to your preference.

If you have a dream, many people will discourage you. They will come at you with compelling points to stop. Do not STOP! At least not until you have tried. You must tap in to your inner self and find the strength to survive all the obstacles that may come your way. You have all you need within you, make wise use of it!
Have a blessed day and take care!

HANEEM'S DIARY: Tales of a broken heart

Most people had already left the mosque after praying the congregational jumaah prayer. We were also about to leave when we were stopped by an MSS official who informed us that a woman wanted to speak with the females.We were lead to the far end of the females section in the masjid where some ladies were already waiting. We joined them and waited for a short while then a tall dark skinned woman draped from head to toe in a brown veil walked towards us. She said her salam when she approached us. She sat on the rubber chair that was kept in between the mats. She greeted us again. On a closer look, she looked like she was in her mid twenties if not younger. I had expected someone older because they had experienced life a whole lot more.Nonetheless, I was curious to hear what she had to say.
"First I sincerely apologize for coming unannounced. I didn't plan to stay here for long but my trip had to get extended so I decided to make wise use of the time. My name is Farhat and I am twenty two years old. I was born in to a very wealthy family. I had never experienced any hardship whatsoever. I was loved and pampered. I guess that made me oblivious to reality. I assumed that the whole world was-well-innocent like myself. I returned to the country after I finished my degree few years ago.I might have gone back to further my education but I met the love of my life," She smiled as she stared in to the distance."I was at that stage in my life when getting married was the order of the day. The more I listened to my peers discuss it the more the desperation in me increased.
Then one beautiful morning I ran in to someone while taking my morning walk. We had the most reasonable conversation than I had ever had with a guy in forever. He was sensible, religious calm and collected. We had connected since that first meeting and somehow everything just fell in to place. The more I got to know him the more goodness I saw in him. I had suggested that we get tested in the hospital but he declined. He claimed there was no need since we both knew our genotype and we were compatible. I gushed about him to friends and family-Something I'm glad I did. My father immediately seeked an audience with him and the marriage preparations began.
I was ecstatic just like any bride. I had all made my dresses made, booked my make up artists and done all the preparations.
The most shocking discovery came just two days to our wedding....to be contined...

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TEA TIME WITH MEENAH #1

Hello beautiful people! Welcome to the first episode of tea time with Meenah. Here is the big topic;
“Are social Networking sites good for our society?”
But first, tea!

I have always believed that a social networking site is what you make out of it. Incase you’re wondering what I mean, I will explain. It’s like having an empty sack. You can either fill it with fruits and wegetables-you can eat them or sell them or you can fill it with sands and pebbles–which will do you no good. Or you can leave it empty. It’s a platform, a portal where you can achieve so much good or you can cause so much harm to yourself.
People use social networking sites to connect with friends and family. Sometimes you can come across your long lost college or friend on a facebook suggestion box. They might even be living in a different country but you get to communicate with them through social media.
Social networks are one of the best ways to promote businesses. I have come across so many entrepreneurs who advertise their products on instagram through which they are able to reach multitude of people from different places. This isn't a plus just for the entrepreneurs but also for the customers. Sometimes you go round the entire market but you won’t be able to find what you are looking for but once you log into instagram, there it is lying peacefully on your timeline.
Social media has resulted in many marriages. Hold that thought! I know this is a very delicate issue. There are so many different people with different intentions online. It is that one should be very careful as to how he interacts with strangers. Safety comes first! There are so many horror stories that spun from innocent unsuspecting people who become victims of counless unspeakable crimes.
There are many charity organizations that have been able to reach out to many people on social media. Social media is instrumental to the good work that they do. The people who have benefitted from such will testify to it. Organizations like SCAF use different social media to create awareness on sickle cell. I believe this method will reach out to more people within a short period of time.

Social media is so entertaining. I can not over stress this fact. I have come across so many funny memes, tweets, pictures, jokes and videos. It gets so fun sometimes that I literally struggle to go offline. The negative effect of this is time wasting. It is so distracting. One has to be so disciplined in terms of time management.
I can go on and on but I don't want all you read to be my opinion only. So please join the conversation by telling me what you think in the comment box. Have a blessed day!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Happy new year everyone! I wish you all sucess,good health and prosperity! xx