What's next?

 Uh-huh uh-huh...!

This is what is on many people's minds. "Oh so you're done with your degree and your NYSC so, what's next?"

You probably have a good guess of what they're thinking... Marriage!

I don't know who created this format, a kind of one size fits all solution. Many people expect that the natural course of things is for you to present a man. This is not bad at all but what if the miss hasn't found "the man" to present? What happens then?

I dislike that someone somewhere will design a template of the course my life is supposed to take. I am a dreamer living in a country where dreams get crushed almost at every junction. That is heart breaking enough. I am young woman with goals and aspirations that don't just start and end with marriage. There is so much more for me to do, to try, to even aim for. So marriage doesn't have to be next (even though I have nothing against it). Whatever comes next is what comes next.

Let's stop pushing young women in to relationships they aren't ready for just because we feel that should be the next thing on her to do list. Marriage really is a beautiful thing, however it is not something to be rushed in to. It requires caution, consideration and loads of prayers.

Instead of pushing ladies to worry about something they have no control over, isn't it better to encourage them to develop themselves by carving a niche for themselves somewhere. Anywhere nice that will breed profitable outcomes. This is going to benefit them and help them whenever marriage comes.

All in all what I'm saying is that it's okay if you're yet to find Mr. Right. There is more to life, you can use the time to better yourself instead of sulking because people won't stop poking their mouths in your business.  Invest in you for a better you!

xx