Surviving setbacks

Hello my lovelies!

 We know them, we've heard about them and at some point we've all experienced them. 

What are they? 

Setbacks! 

So you've finally made up your mind to pursue that one thing that you've always wanted and you're full of energy and positivity. Add your efforts in to that and you have a beautiful start to your beloved project, you know it's possible for something to go wrong so you invest extra time to make sure you're left no stone unturned. 

Remarkably, It starts to thrive, your dedication and efforts weren't for nothing after all. The feeling is exhilarating, giving you even more energy to put in to it and then the problems start, sometimes they start off small while other times they come in large sizes to put a dent in all you’ve worked for. It feels like a skyscraper falling at your feet and boy does it hurt like crazy! It’s a special type of hurt because your self-esteem, motivation and energy all suffer major hits. Personally, it makes me want to just quit as most times it’s too unbearable for me. However what I have come to learn over the years is that, a setback happens for a reason. Painful as it may be, it teaches you a very important lesson. You know how they say experience is the best teacher right? It truly is. There might have been something you were blind to with all the thrill of a new seemingly-progressing project or even something you knew about but paid little attention to. It truly is demoralizing especially when it includes financial loses. No good thing comes easy, if you don’t learn from it then that’s just a waste of a painful experience.

 Now on to the main reason I am writing this blog post, ‘the how’. The first thing I’d suggest is for you to take a break. No, I don’t mean go and sleep your sorrows away. After burning all of that energy and commitment then getting to a dead-end, you need to rest and recharge. Now, while you are at it, try to calmly revisit everything and figure out what went wrong. Understanding where the problem comes from is key in knowing how to either reverse it or fix it. The next thing is to re-strategize. If you have successfully figured out the cause of the problem, naturally, the next option would be to fix it. In rising again its either you avoid what caused the first problem, or you go around it. Achieving this would involve re-strategizing, restructuring everything and planning it all again. 

Give yourself some credit. It takes great courage to attempt something in the first place. No matter how supportive people around you are, hardly anyone would give you pat on the back for even attempting something. Success cuts it for people and unless you’re a success story, few people are going to stand around encouraging you. Most of them would laugh in your face then follow it up with how they all knew you were going to fail. Sometimes you have to be your own cheer leader. Talk to yourself as you would to someone you love. 

I will stop here for today; I hope you have picked up something positive from this little post of mine, do let me know your thoughts by dropping comments down below and please do not forget to follow me on my social media pages. xx