(You're going to need a hot cup of tea for this one).
Do you know anyone with domineering opinions in your life? Have you ever been around these people? Have you ever been close to such people? Well, I have, unfortunately. I have someone dear to my heart that has such a personality, believe me when I say I struggle to stay afloat whenever we get in to an argument.
First of all, there is the I know better than you unapologetic behavior. Ah! This kills me. It sometimes makes me wish I had the I-don’t-care attitude but since I don’t, I end up suffering through it. In my case, I’d say this person is actually quite blessed in a wide range of topics but my darlings, no one is always right.
Personally, I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion and beliefs no matter how conflicting those may be to mine. We are different people, brought up in different ways by different people of course our behavior will conflict with that of each other. Its sort of like a marriage, no one is always right but to make it work we have to learn to consider each other and respect each other’s opinion even educate each other as need be. So even if you do know better than people, its okay to listen to them speak their opinion then calmly educate them as the more learned person. No be fight!
Then there is that issue of drawing up conclusions on you and your ideas based on general opinion on matters. What I have come to understand about my twenties is that I am still growing in to who I really am. I am far from being there yet, I have a billion things left to learn about life. My opinions are formed based on what I know and have already experienced. This is why I am open to learning, most times when I give my viewpoints I add that it’s my opinion at this point in time.
Whenever I give general opinions, haba! I get it plastered all around my face as if it isn’t subject to change. You may wonder how I handle the toxicity, hahaha! Guys I’m simply winging it. Sometimes there is a burning need to clarify my opinion other times I just give up. I don’t always have energy to define who I really am, the people who know know. Those who don’t are allowed to wonder in peace.
The most difficult part for me has to be the lack of consideration for others maybe because I am the opposite of this. Life is super hard for all of us, a little consideration goes a long way. I love making excuses for people, it isn’t always easy but I try because I know we all struggle. The truth is I don’t always do it as sometimes I’m also drained from fighting my demons off. It is because I know what its like, that I try to consider others. My opinion doesn’t have to be final, there is room to compare and contrast things and go with the most logical one.
As I’ve learned the hard way, some people do not care about your opinion, they put themselves first, second and third. If they are hurting, everything comes to a standstill because the king is down but if you are they always come up with the most careless and flimsy excuses to explain your situation which is basically a fancy way of putting all the blame on you. I do not need to explain how suffocating that is, its simply horrible. I am sure you can tell that is if you haven't had a first hand experience yourself.
I had to get to the end of this post first before realizing that it's a rant🤭 Here comes that calming feeling after letting go of all that bad energy 😅
Okay I still want to hear your thoughts on this rant...Do drop your comments.
See you next time with something that isn't a rant.
xx
