A Wave 0f Desperation

I recently observed how young ladies are eager and desperate to get married. This desperation-from what I've noticed-comes from comparing themselves to others. When they realize that everyone around them is either married,engaged or in a serious relationship they start to get depressed.

The first mistake is comparing themselves to others. We are different people,with different interest,likes and dislikes and our path in this life is definitely not the same.

Desperation pushes her to settle for less,much less than what she wants and can tolerate. she reduces her standards to the barest minimum in a reckless attempt to find a husband. In this recklessness,she belittles her heart to someone who isn't worth it,who doesn't know her heart and who would probably never value her.

I've witnessed a situation where a young lady-just a year older than myself- was complaining about her boyfriend saying he never calls and that he doesn't pay attention to her or anything she has to say. The reply he gave her provoked me. "It seems you're not ready for marriage and I'm not getting any younger,I need to settle down." At nineteen there is absolutely no way i'll listen to anyone who spills that crap. I mean if he is old enough to think that he's not getting any younger then he's too old for a nineteen year old. This same guy persistently insisted on going to meet her parents concerning marrying her. I'm sure you can imagine how-if that union were to happen-that marriage would look like.

I believe that I'm way too young for such things because Most men out there are cunning,selfish,heartless with no sense of responsibility,they just exploit young innocent ladies to their own satisfaction. I also know that every lady ought to take sometime to be alone to understand herself,listen to her heart and to dream. This will definitely help you to know what you really want.

Sometimes the excuse is "My sister is 18 and she's engaged and I'm 20 and I'm not even in a relationship" so she goes with the first person who approaches her and the next thing you know she's getting married too. The thing we fail to understand is that we are all different people with different destinies. Let's take an example,if for instance it takes your friend or sister two minutes to finish a 100m race, you might finish it in five minutes. That does not make u weak no,it just means she's faster than you perhaps only at short distanced races. This difference between you two makes each one of you unique,it distinguishes you from each other.

I really don't understand the desperation. Could it be lack of dreams or goals? I have so many dreams that I want to accomplish-if not all,at least half before I say I'm ready for marriage. Also,I must have someone in mind with all the qualities that I want in a husband and in my children's father.

I wonder if some people just want to have a wedding and not a marriage; maybe the beauty of weddings appeal to them and they want to experience it too. However weddings only last for a few days and marriage should be for a lifetime. You have to tolerate your spouse at his highs and lows,you have to be a wife and a mother,you have to make sacrifices in your role as both.

Dear reader,if you know of anyone who is desperate tell them to calm down and relax. Marriage is a lifetime commitment,its not something you jump into. Its the key to your future happiness and the way you make your decisions concerning it will affect you and your future greatly. A lot of problems begin to arise when you compare yourself to others. We are all different people with different beliefs and different destinies. We are all meant to walk different paths at different times. Do not compare yourself to others;look only at yourself,count your blessing and take everything bit by bit, just enjoy life, learn your lessons. When your time comes,you'll know deep in your heart that that is your time and your moment to begin living your dreams of being the type of wife and mother you've always wanted to be!

Color Combo:Orange and Green

Color combinations are now the order of the day. We know longer live in the era of matching your outfits,its all about the right color combination. People don't just combine colors randomly,its done with the help of the color wheel-which I still don't fully understand how it works. One of my favorite color combination is Orange and Green. What are your favorite color combinations ?

Pick Only 2: Love,Health or Money

Hello there! I came across this photo earlier on my blackberry messenger. It got me thinking, which will I really pick? The first thing that came to my mind was "the three,I want the three" But that would be cheating,so I thought again and here is what I came up with. I did not really give it much thought after seeing it, I had showed it to a friend so as to find out which she would pick and she suddenly asked me "What will you really pick?" I almost blurted my answer. "love and health". It might sound a bit crazy to most people but that is just it for me. Health I believe is superior and it has to come first. Health is wealth, Nothing in this world compares to health, If u do have money but you're always sick, you would be miserable. Also,if you're blessed with love(it could be from family,friends or even your spouse), there would be many people by your side to nurse you and it'll feel good to have people by your side but that doesn't really take away the illness,even though it feels nice to have people around. I'll explain why I chose love over money. Money can get you so many things in life and it can also take you to many places in the world. Money can buy you luxury,comfort and many other material things but it can not buy the important things in life. Money cannot buy happiness,peace,true love,compassion,A happy home or a close knit family. A mansion would feel lonely and empty without the above. All the luxury in the world will only make you more miserable if you have no reason to smile or you have no one to share it with. If you have the honesty and compassion of people it will help a lot in seeking for a source of livelihood. Love has a variety of meanings. It does not just refer to romantic feelings towards one other. It also extends to affection,kindness,selflessness and compassion. Love makes life beautiful,it makes all the hardship of life worth it. What will you pick?